I thought you hated your sister, and couldn't forgive your mom. Good you've gotten over that, though. Being closer would be nice... but you didn't come back to Reno particularly often... so to some extent, you're still going to not be with people you know, and you'll still have to face the same problems of people already having friends and significant others and so on. Also, as Meru pointed out, your friends aren't necessarily going to stay in Santa Cruz/the Bay area forever.
If you think I'm being discouraging, I am. I just think you'll be better off at Yale, even if you're unhappy, than unhappy and flitting around from this to that and going nowhere with your life. I'm not necessarily against your moving and making big changes, but you should be sure you're not just making up pleasant fantasies about what life would be like over there doing that before you gamble away what you've got.
I knew what you meant about what you should be doing, and I don't think you should take it very seriously, because, really, there's no way you can ever know if you're doing what you should be doing, according to whatever grand scheme. The hills are not going to break into song if you are, nor is the sky going to fall if you're not; you're just not going to get that kind of information. So I think the best thing to do is just not worry about it. I suppose what you're trying to ask is "do I really want to be doing this?" and you have to answer that.
I guess I also still think you should give the counselors another shot.
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Date: 2007-03-26 11:40 pm (UTC)From:If you think I'm being discouraging, I am. I just think you'll be better off at Yale, even if you're unhappy, than unhappy and flitting around from this to that and going nowhere with your life. I'm not necessarily against your moving and making big changes, but you should be sure you're not just making up pleasant fantasies about what life would be like over there doing that before you gamble away what you've got.
I knew what you meant about what you should be doing, and I don't think you should take it very seriously, because, really, there's no way you can ever know if you're doing what you should be doing, according to whatever grand scheme. The hills are not going to break into song if you are, nor is the sky going to fall if you're not; you're just not going to get that kind of information. So I think the best thing to do is just not worry about it. I suppose what you're trying to ask is "do I really want to be doing this?" and you have to answer that.
I guess I also still think you should give the counselors another shot.