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Your situation isn't that bad. You're a cute girl. If you don't behave in desperation, you'll find what you're looking for.

What he said.

aurorapenguin.

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Oh hey now.

It seems like most women have baby biological clocks, and I have a marriage biological clock. Every six months the alarm goes off, I look around to see if I'm with someone I could marry, and then panic ensues when I see that I'm not. Nevermind that I'm young, I'm BEHIND SCHEDULE.

Not that I know what the schedule says; it probably doesn't call for marriage for at least another five years, but hey, I like to be on top of things.

Hmm. You mean, women reach a certain age and start freaking out because they haven't had kids yet? It's actually quite reasonable, except for its not really helping the situation; stuff kinda breaks down after a while, as you well know, Miss Biologist, so if you want kids, particularly normal kids, you know you can't hang around forever. I suppose marriage can, though, if you're not planning on having kids.

We told my grandmother(78) if she were in America, she could get married again, and she was outraged. She's also outraged at the idea of painting the apartment, and the idea of Leenah walking to school, and my dad buying an apartment in Alex, and that we always take the stairs instead of the elevetor...

On a somewhat related note, you know my grandmother was 14 years younger than my grandfather when they got married? He was 36. Also, there are fourteen years between my grandmother and her youngest (half) sister, who is actually closer in age to my dad than to my grandmother. Kind of intense.

That's the interesting thing about religion. Something completely reasonable to one person sounds unfathomable to another. Like a young girl walking to school. Or an arranged marriage. Or other madnesses. Why can't we all just get along??!!

My dad is twelve years older than my mom. And my mom's oldest brother is 23 years older than her youngest (full) brother. I think Rick's kids are maybe one or two years younger than John.

No, I don't think it's religion; my grandmother's just afraid she'll be mugged or something. She's very fearful these days.

Crazy mormons. Christ.

You have no idea. I love them, but really. You have no idea.

Oh, if it's just paranoia... yeah, that's actually harder to deal with. My dad does that.

Yeah... I don't think Cairo's particularly dangerous though; it just kills you slowly.

I feel the deep need to correct this. I apologize. Rick's kids are actually older than John... both of them are. There is a story about the four of them in a grocery store with Grandma Joy, and someone coming up and asking if they were all hers. She just smiled and said yes, as technically the grandkids are... but yeah. When John was born, they were... 2 and 4? Maybe? But definitely older.

You know, I wondered about that when I wrote it. Thanks for the correction. Are they older than Sara too?

You want intense? My mom and dad are/were 13 years apart. Dad was born in '36, Mom in '49. My mom was 36 when she had me and my dad was 49. They got married after 6 weeks of knowing each other. Now, Chris and I are 13 years apart also. We got engaged pretty much 6 or 8 weeks after knowing each other. So does that mean that when I'm 72 and he's 85 (the years of our births) something big will happen?

Oh, and get this. My parents got married the same year Chris was born. Talk about weird?

And to go along with what everyone else is talking about, you'll get there. Sometimes it takes a while and, like E said, you have to give fate a nudge and other times you walk smack dab into it. And also to take into consideration, many women follow in their mother's footsteps. I think my mom was 24 when she got married and although I was younger than that, there are many similarities. Anyway, I'm just rambling.

Oh, and on a completely random tangent... I made you somethin' purdy! I'll have to get it in the mail next week :)

Whoa, that's some crazy stuff.

I think my mom was 22 or 23 when she got married. Pretty sure I won't follow in her footsteps, though, because she was rebelling against the Mormon Church at the time and married the defendent she met when she had jury duty. They wrote letters for the last year that he was in prison (the case, an appeal, was thrown out; she didn't convict him) and they got married after he got out. She was going to go into the Navy (my mom in the Navy???!!) and then she got pregnant with me and they moved to Alaska. It's a weird story, made weirder by the fact that it's impossible to get details from either of my parents, and everything I know about how they met I've gleaned from conversations about other things. *sigh* I'm positive there's something REALLY messed up about it that they're both avoiding telling me.

Anyway. I bought some yarn today and am going to make a scarf for one of my friends here in New Haven. I went to a yarn store and felt like a grandmother. :-P ..oooh... *goes to find icons with pictures of yarn in them*

Yay! Yarn!!! I've decided that I want to do that Bubby Bear pattern and I need to go out and buy the supplies for it.

And I found a knitting icon over at obsessive icons....
http://upon-tiptoe.net/angharadty/icons/interestmeme2/knitting.jpg

Hehe. I saved that one last week and uploaded it after I commented.

The one I thought I had was a picture of different colored balls of yarn. Can't find it, though. Could have sworn I got it from enriana, so now I'm gonna have to go back through the obsessiveicons archives. Grrr...

I found this one too. :-P

I felt the same way after I graduated. I seem to be back on schedule now, but there was a period of time in which anxiety reigned supreme. It wasn't fun.

But what I was agreeing with mostly was the idea that you shouldn't wear your desperation on your sleeve. Seriously. That's a super-huge turn-off, and even people who would otherwise like you may be deterred by it. Defend against it as best you can.

I <3 Dirty Dancing. I swear to god I have seen that movie like seriously probably upwards of 8 times. How frickin' sad is that? Like...every time I'm home it is on some t.v station and it is such a good movie that I can't help but watch it...even though it makes me look like uber gay. Same thing with Titanic. If I have to chose between bad sitcoms, shitty movies, or a classic...I pick the classic. Hell...I watched Rambo: First Blood today because it is a classic and nothing else better was on. Seriously, the first movie is a GREAT movie that is so overlooked because of the stereotypes that were generated by the Rambo *sequels* of Stallone taking on 30 guys at once with a bow and arrow or machine gun. The first movie takes place in the Pacific Northwest (like Washington or Oregon)and is a serious critique at the military and the civilians post-Vietnam. REALLY worth watching (I shit you not).

Anyway...good luck on the dude hunt. All I wish to say here is that I know you will find your own answers on this subject in due time and I have a feeling that when you find them, they *will* be the right ones for you. Not be vague or anything. ;)
Perhaps it might be worth introspecting a bit on what is makin' you feel so needy recently. Environment? Group pressure (everyone around you getting married, having kids)? Biological clock ticking? If fixating on having someone else is really like a huge priority (you wouldn't be the first person on the planet to say "yes" to that), perhaps it would be fitting to ask why it is so important that this happen now? Why must this happen on your terms instead of naturally (like with Jamie)? is this some push for a greater control of your romantic life because you felt so out of control with both the beginning of your other major relationships, their decent into irrecoverable messes, and their inevitable ends? Perhaps those might be good questions for you. Perhaps not? I dunno. Only you can answer that or even evaluate if they are worth answering. Like I said earlier though, I think you will come to a satisfactory mindset or resolution to your boy troubles. :)

Anyway...watch Rambo. I'm dead serious, it is a great movie even it is total 100% jingoistic propaganda in some places . :)

-E

Hmm, I replied to the above comments before I read yours. I think my reply there applies here as well.

I was thinking earlier about something. I'm reading a book called The Alchemist, which is about following your Personal Legend and realizing your dreams, and I was trying to figure out what my Personal Legend is. What do I want most out of life? What is my ultimate DREAM? In an ideal world, what would my life look like? And I'm sure that a husband is a part of that scenario, but I don't think he'd be the focus. I just don't know what is. Maybe I'm trying to pick up pieces of the puzzle as I go along? Or maybe I'm just lonely, and miss having someone to talk to about my life and my dreams and how my day went. In any case, I know everyone's right, and I should focus on something else and Lover Boy will magically appear. That's the way it always works. But it's so damn hard.

And yeah, I love Dirty Dancing too. I have it on DVD and I've seen it way more than 8 times. It's just such a guilty pleasure.... Dunno that I'd be up for Rambo, though. Over break I watched Rocky twice, and I really think I've hit my limit for that genre. Dear God, please don't send me a husband that loves Rocky. Please.

aww you <3 Dirty Dancing? I <3 Dirty Dancing too!!

I think the first time I watched it was at Kara's house lol. And when it comes on TBS or something I try to catch it, but Chris doesn't like it so I either have to watch it while he's gone or not at all :(

ha ha. I always knew Kara was a bad influence. ;)

-E

:)

Yeah...I prolly have seen DD more than 8 times. I just don't want to realistically guess how many...so I'm leaving it at around that number ;). The first time I saw it was when I was like 12 or 13. My mom got me into the soundtrack when I was like 5. :)

I dunno about Rocky. I haven't ever seen Rocky or any of the sequels so I don't know if they are any good. Obviously a ton of people think so...but then again...a ton of people overlooked First Blood because of how stupid and over the top the subsequent movies are. So who knows? If you get a chance and it is on t.v or somethin' (and you can see it from the beginning), I would give it a shot.

Oh you bum. Readin' everyone else's comments first! J/k. It makes sense to read them in order...and even though I was the second person to comment (if you look at the times by everyone's post), when other people start replying to other comments it bumps the whole LJ comment chain downwards. So it just looks like I was late to the game. Nyeh! *sticks out tongue.*

:)

Anywway...I'm not trying to tell you what to do, K-Rizzle. I'm also not trying to slap normative judgments on the table with respect to how you live your life. For you it MIGHT be A-Ok for you to focus on getting a dude. That may BE how you net your dream boy. Not all great romances happen 100% spontaneously. Sometimes people give fate a nudge, you know? Instead of trying to tell you what is good or bad or tell you what to do (which just makes you look like an ass, as I have realized in my approaching infinite wisdom...tee hee)...I think the easiest way to figure out what is right for you is to try to really dig deep down and look at the root causes of your own behavior in an honest fashion. Emotions are automatic responses that are like summarized versions of how our brain digests external situations/stimuli and internal stuff buried in our subconscious. Emotions are kind of like cliff notes to your life and your place in it at any given time. They really are only useful as study guides if you have read the source material. Otherwise you are just cheating yourself. Anyway, like I said...I'm sure you will do fine. My bets are on you, not the problem. :)

-E

Eh, I dunno whether I should or shouldn't focus on getting a guy. It seems like things will happen the way they will, whether I push them or not, so really it's just a matter of making myself happy in the process, y'know? I have a hard time not focusing on guys, I'm not sure why. Anyway. I've been optimistic since I left San Francisco, so I'm trying not to analyze things too much right now lest I screw up the happy mindset. :-P

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