I know that I'm sensitive enough to gender issues to have only offended one friend. (Hint, I wasn't terribly insensitive at the time. I just notioned that she was making up facts.) I don't want to say who, so, I'll just say who next time I see you.
It's also interesting about the social circles bit. I tend to avoid dating inside my own social circle, because I don't want to create drama... the hookup, to me, in light of this, is the realization of the inevitable. IE, two parties (at least in my case, myself and a female acquaintance) view the hookup as inevitable and act on it because of this. Barring this, I generally avoid it, mostly because of prior experience. The girl that I dated freshman year of college was very close to a number of my friends from high school. When we broke up, they sided with her in the breakup, ending many of my high school friendships. By dating outside of my immediate social circle, I'm able to avoid this to an extent. Few people question me about my breakup with the girl I first dated after college, aside to say, "bsdstud that was really stupid of you." They still side with me, they're still my friends.
I should probably be more careful in the way that I phrase things. In the GP, I merely meant that almost any point of view that I could possibly take will be indefensible from somebody's angle, and therefore offensive, and, as such, I prefer to avoid that issue altogether, despite having a fairly developed view on the topic. We can share over beers sometime, given that we're in a crowd of people that we both know fairly well. I'd rather not start off on the wrong foot with anyone by jumping into such an inherently politically charged issue.
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It's also interesting about the social circles bit. I tend to avoid dating inside my own social circle, because I don't want to create drama... the hookup, to me, in light of this, is the realization of the inevitable. IE, two parties (at least in my case, myself and a female acquaintance) view the hookup as inevitable and act on it because of this. Barring this, I generally avoid it, mostly because of prior experience. The girl that I dated freshman year of college was very close to a number of my friends from high school. When we broke up, they sided with her in the breakup, ending many of my high school friendships. By dating outside of my immediate social circle, I'm able to avoid this to an extent. Few people question me about my breakup with the girl I first dated after college, aside to say, "
I should probably be more careful in the way that I phrase things. In the GP, I merely meant that almost any point of view that I could possibly take will be indefensible from somebody's angle, and therefore offensive, and, as such, I prefer to avoid that issue altogether, despite having a fairly developed view on the topic. We can share over beers sometime, given that we're in a crowd of people that we both know fairly well. I'd rather not start off on the wrong foot with anyone by jumping into such an inherently politically charged issue.