I think most strong people (you and I included) don't let Coasters (let's call 'em that, shall we?) take over our lives or anything. However, they can just kind of linger and drain your energy, your hope for the future, etc. That draining effect isn't healthy and those weights need to be cast off your shoulders however you can.

As for being angry at 'Celis...yeah, I certain had that as well. That anger was a reflection of really really deep pain, though and an equal deep betrayal of something I valued highly. Don't envy me too much, Miss Kara ;).
I would definitely like to note that part of why I can relate to you is the fact that despite getting fucked over to a certain degree by my ex I realize that it takes two to tango and that I had my role in the relationship as well as the breakup. As such, I have spent agonizing hours wondering whether or not our relationship could have ever worked (like maybe if we had met 5 years down the road) or if I could have been a good enough boyfriend to not lose her to another guy, etc. I definitely do have regrets, some of which are mitigated by the way things went down during the breakup, but some that aren't. Does that make sense?

As for the qualifying thing...crazy! Sounds intense. Kind of cool though. :)
I'm sure we will hear more about it over the next school year. :)

-E