Said aunt would like to clarify comment on abuse victims: "Victims are often overachievers, workaholics, perfectionsts (among over- other things). In my opinion this is because of the need to keep mind and body busy. In lag times, the mind has a chance to think and reflect and these times often bring very negative memories, feelings, and / or thoughts, especially about one's self-worth. When one keeps moving, working, listening to music 24/7, or whatever, the mind is stimulated enough to not allow lag time."

Second clarification: My dear one (I would gladly claim you as my own), don't you know that somewhere in the DNA makeup up the female species of this family is a component that insists that we prove everything ourselves which includes making all those mistakes by ourselves? I have now launched two daughters that have proven this. mmmmm.... and you are oh-so-related (thankfully so). (-: